Now this is a hard one. It’s something I’ve really struggled with in the past, and still struggle with now. Growing up I always worried what other people thought of me. I worried about what I should be wearing, whether people would judge what I’m doing, and if I’m totally honest, what other people would think of who I am. Have you ever been in a situation where you’ve felt like you can’t say something? Or questioned your ability because you’re worried you’ll sound stupid? This has been me on many occasions.
I think I come across as quite a confident person, but deep down I am always battling with myself over what others think of me. I remember starting my Instagram account (which took a good few months of talking myself into it) and worrying SO much about what to write and what others would think. I didn’t tell any of my friends or family at the time, as I was embarrassed about their opinion of it. It’s only been quite recently that I’ve relaxed a little, but there are still times now that I’ll question myself and have a mini panic about what I’m doing. Firstly, I want to point out that there is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling like this. Unfortunately, it’s one of those things that is hard to control and we can only try and help ourselves by changing our mindset and thinking – much easier said than done I know! I used to look at other people and wish I was as laid back and care free as them, until I realised that this is who I am, and it’s nothing to be ashamed of!
I think we are all guilty of wanting to look or be like someone else. Those models on Instagram, celebrities, even our friends. It’s easy to want someone else’s life, when everything seems totally ‘perfect’ from our own. I think as humans we will always want what we can’t have! There’s a few things that I have learnt throughout my fitness journey that I really want to share with you…
You are unique in your own way
We all have different bodies and are built in different ways. I read something the other day that I loved – isn’t it amazing how we are all totally unique? It’s so true, no one other person can look exactly like you, act like you, dress like you etc. It’s time we embraced our imperfections and saw them as unique and perfect in our own way. I used to be extremely self-conscious with my body, however after time I realised that everyone has their own insecurities, but it’s what makes us who we are today!
Comparing yourself can only lead to disappointment
So you set a goal to look exactly like someone, but what happens when you don’t achieve it? You’re much more likely to give up or get down on yourself, right? This isn’t just going to lower your self-esteem, it’s going to make you question yourself and how you look when you’re perfect to begin with! My best tip would be to find motivation in others around you, but embark on your own journey. Compare yourself to yourself and you’ll see how far YOU have come and feel so proud!
Have a strong support network
I have to say, I’m extremely lucky that I have really supportive family and friends around me. Whenever I’m feeling down or worried about something they will always be there for me. Instead of dealing with all your problems yourself, confide in a friend to help you. You’ll always feel so much better talking to someone else, and chances are they may have some good advice for you.
Don’t be afraid to be different or have a voice. If you don’t agree with what someone else does, it doesn’t mean you have to copy them or follow what they do! Be confident in yourself and last but not least be proud of what you’ve achieved!
I hope this helps some of you realise how AMAZING you are! I never used to, however I’m slowly getting better at being more confident in myself. Be proud of how far you’ve come and enjoy your journey! Comparing yourself to others can only get you down on yourself, so don’t allow yourself to. I think we all need a little reminding that self-love is one of the most important things!